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I Did a TEDx Talk!
I Did a TEDx Talk!

Holy crap! I did a TEDx talk! And I lived to tell the tale! I spent every waking hour over the last five months equal parts giddy with excitement and pee-my-pants nervous. You know how else I can describe this potent cocktail of feelings? UNDENIABLY ALIVE. It felt like I had taken a swig out...

Vital Engagement
Have You Heard of Vital Engagement?

I dare you to tell me you don’t like the idea of a life colored in with both absorbed enjoyment and meaning... a living-in-vivid-color kind of life where you sweep yourself off your feet with captivatingly engaging activities... a meaningful life that feels like your existence matters and has more than a pea-sized iota of...

How Do You Want to Approach Your Big End?
How Do You Want to Approach Your Big End?

The words we tell ourselves matter. You know this, I know this, and every coach worth the dough they paid to get certified knows this. I’m going to get all persnickety though and say it’s the verbs that usually matter the most. Verbs specify the action we want to commit to, rather than just musing...

Getting Into the Zone
How Flow Can Enliven Your Life

Don’t you just love a chart that explains your feelings to you, in a way that feels more legit than reading your astrological chart? Like this one, that’s backed by real and actual science? If you’re feeling anxious, for example, it just might be because you’re overly challenged and woefully short on the skills to...

Why We Need Life to Suck Sometimes
Why We Need Life to Suck Sometimes

Rather counterintuitive in a world that favors comfort, convenience, and sheer and utter pleasure is the idea that humans deteriorate without challenges and adversity placed on our bodies and minds. (Deterioration, to be clear, is not what we’re looking for while we still have Mondays left to live.) The hedonic pursuit of happiness, characterized by...

Would You Recommend Your Life to Someone Else?
Would You Recommend Your Life?

I once spent an 18-month stint in my corporate career as a customer service expert (or at least I pretended very hard to be one and fortunately had fun trying). In that role I espoused the virtues of the Net Promoter Score — which is the gold standard in customer experience metrics and also a...

The Importance of Naming Your Feelings
The Importance of Naming Your Feelings

How are you feeling right now? Let me guess: “fine”? You can do better than that, friend. Being able to accurately perceive your emotions (and also the feels of others) is an enormous component of emotional intelligence — something you might want to boost if you interact with humans in any part of your day,...

You Just Might Have Ambiguous Dying Syndrome
You Just Might Have Ambiguous Dying Syndrome

If you were dying, would you want to know it? According to research, you might not have a choice: for half the people who die each year, the medical community is able to solemnly deliver the “I’m sorry but you’re dying” news to the sick patient before they kick the bucket. For the other half...

How to Live Until 100
How to Live Until 100

Look at me over here, just assuming you want to become a centenarian. I should begin this little “how to” ditty by asking if you even want to live until 100? According to research from the Stanford Center on Longevity, 77% of Americans want to live to see their 100th birthday. That’s what we think when...

Comparison: The Happiness Hijacker
Comparison: The Happiness Hijacker

Okay, eager pupils, it’s time for a pop quiz about how comparison robs us of the warm and fuzzy feelings of aliveness! And because you’re on the other end of an invisible Wi-Fi radio wave, I won’t even know if you cheat. (I’m totally fine if you cheat.) Question 1: What would most people rather?...

The Book of Bad Calls
How to Celebrate Your Snafus

Despite our best efforts to live astonishing, gleeful, downright picturesque and consistently perfect lives, sometimes we f*#k things up. Sometimes we make decisions that make us shake our heads and wonder what we were thinking when we said “cheers!” to that fifth shot of gin (not that I have any experience with that at all...

When We Want Opposing Things in Life
When We Want Opposing Things in Life

I started my career as a personal trainer (yes, it was all the way back in the 90s, and yes, that was approximately 125 years ago, and yes, I wore those swishy track suits) — which means I got a front row seat to the three-ring circus of Bonkers Human Behavior. Most of my clients wanted...

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