Oh, and I do mean in total. In the life you’re living right now. I’m looking at 1,981 Mondays if I end up living an exceptionally average life. (Women have until 81 to RIP, on average; men, you have until 76– sorry. FYI, my finances and hopes are budgeting for a longer life than that.)...
Making our happiness contingent on the “Very Important Thing” that’s for sure going to hopefully happen in the future (like getting that promotion, losing 17 pounds, or moving to Boulder– or all three!) means that a) we’re delusional, and b) we’re pressing the pause button on the very lives we’re living right now – because...
Look inside before you look outside. We’re changing jobs every 4.2 years, us fickle and disengaged worker-bees. Harvard Business Review says that people are most likely to leave a job around their one-year work anniversary because we apparently all believe that the grass is greener, even in concrete jungles. Are we obsessed with the idea of...
Are you having fun yet? Years ago, I found myself in a job that JUST WASN’T FUN ANYMORE. I complained about it just like that, too – in an all-caps, whiny-voiced kind of way that likely made The Husband feel the same way about his life (or at least about me). I’ve had jobs that...
June 20th is the longest day of the year, which means we can either savor or squander the extra two seconds of daylight bestowed upon us by the people who made up astronomy. (And I am being exact here: Chicago, for example, will enjoy 15:13:40 of daylight compared to the depressing day before with a...
If you’re working past 65, you’d might as well love it. Every single day 10,000 people in the U.S. wake up to celebrate their 65th birthday. After blowing out cakes laden with more candles than they are likely able to blow out, these boomers are faced with the reality of what it means to be...
COVID-19 has made us painfully aware that things aren’t what they used to be. For many, it’s also helping us realize that the “used to be” version of our lives needed a kick in the pants anyways. Maybe we needed a catalyst—like a global pandemic—to both value and experience our lives to their fullest? Aldous...
It might be your gut trying to help you. I’m working with a client right now who’s convinced he’s having a mid-life crisis, and it’s not sitting well with him, at all. He’s 24. In addition to clarifying that this particular stage of WTF is actually called a quarter-life crisis (they exist!), I’m trying to...
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” is one of those slap-you-in-the-face quotes that has you side-eyeing all the regulars in your life. Jim Rohn said those words, which Tony Robbins pounced on, and then Tim Ferriss had his way with them. Oprah even paraphrased it. It’s kind...
Putting positivity in perspective. Norman Vincent Peale, grandfather of the think-yourself-happy movement and author of the enormously popular The Power of Positive Thinking, once said, “There is a deep tendency in human nature to become precisely what you visualize yourself as being.” If you think you’re a talentless loser, things might not go so well...
When it comes to doing what you really want to be doing for a living — not the thing you got sucked into doing right after you graduated, not the thing your spouse hopes you’ll grin and bear until the kids are through college, not the thing that makes the “suck it up, buttercup” memes...
We think we’re supposed to want to grab that Boss brass ring, because many our co-workers are clamoring to break out of the cube farm and earn the right to an office with an actual door. But what if the glamorized idea of leadership just isn’t for you? What’s a stellar individual contributor in a...
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